Friday, November 5, 2010


This morning's drive to our daughter's school reminded me of another oft-overlooked courtesy motorists seldom extend to each other anymore - the 'you-go-first' maneuver as I like to call it. Especially here in California, it seems everyone is in a hurry, blazing through almost-red lights, honking the horn to prompt the driver ahead, and even employing the use of hand and finger gestures, as if that will help speed things up.
Who hasn't tried to change lanes, only to have the other driver speed up or tried to enter traffic from a parking lot, but to no avail? If those nascar-esque drivers took a page from the Southerners, imagine how much more civilized our daily commute would be?
The next time you find yourself in that situation - LET the other driver in ahead of YOU, pull back and let him or her PASS in front of YOUR car. I guarantee you'll feel a little better, your blood pressure may even drop, and you will have extended a random act of kindness to a stranger.
Thoughtfulness in the car is every bit as important as it is at the supermarket or the soccer park. And remember, if YOU are the recipient of such a simple, yet kind gesture, the polite thing to do is to wave in thanks. Like a well-oiled car, let's keep civility going, especially out on the roadways, because it DOES Manner a lot!


  1. Hi Lisa,
    This is such a good topic. Anyone driving down Rosedale Hwy at peak hours has the opportunity to practice patience and courtesy. Road rage, however seemingly minor in form, is still road rage. Thinking about the other guy and not just your own agenda, makes for a more positive experience -- and you get to feel the satisfaction on having that generosity of spirit! Thanks!

  2. Glad you enjoyed it Diana. Still trying to practice what I preach.

  3. This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I am so glad to see your comments on it. As the population grows, our Bakersfield driving manners need to adapt. Something for me to work on too.