Wednesday, January 19, 2011


Someone asked me recently about how I came to create this blog. I had to think for a minute. It wasn't just the frustration of daily dealings with so many ill-mannered people. It went deeper and further than that, 3,000 miles away in fact. Several years ago our family invested in real estate, and in turn, a lifestyle, in the South. In doing so, I came to realize the stark contrasts between the cradle of civility - the South, and the have-nots - the West Coast. Every visit further underscores the great divide of social graces.
So today I read with great interest the latest poll on America's Rudest Cities. I was not surprised. I could be blindfolded mid-flight and know the minute we've crossed over into California airspace. The golden state isn't alone. New York and Philadelphia deserve top 'worst' status as well.
Note that there are no Southern cities on the list, if you don't count Orlando, Miami and Dallas. Herewith is the link to the list at I look forward to hearing from you.

Monday, January 17, 2011


Thank you Leslie Lopez and 17News for shining a bright light on the demise of social graces. Tonight's feature by Lopez profiled Iris Doyle and this blog. If you didn't have a chance to view it, go to to view the story. I will post Iris' contact information as soon as possible. This is a topic that resonates with so many of us. Remember, manners and etiquette have nothing to do with where you live, how much or how little you have, or your blood lines. It is about treating each other with respect and kindness, every minute of every day.

Friday, January 14, 2011


President Obama's call this week for a return to civility was delicately woven through perhaps one of his best speeches, striking the difficult balance between embracing a shocked nation with assurances of better days while honoring those Americans whose lives were forever changed last Saturday in Tucson.
The welcomed dialogue now taking place around the country of civility and civil rhetoric has all roads leading back to Washington. The horrific events last weekend outside the Tucson Safeway defy logic, explanation or reason. History is still unfolding.
But since civility has been painfully kicked onto the national stage, i'd like to share with you a wonderful op-ed piece by columnist David Brooks in this week's New York Times:

and George Washington's Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation: A Book of Etiquette:

If you don't have a copy or have never read the latter, please do. Both links are well worth your time and vital foods for thought.